Category Archives: marriage

Let Me Tell You About My Wonderful Wife

When I was a young teenager there was a family connected to our church that was dysfunctional. The wife was involved in the mission and vision of the church and the husband was nowhere to be found. I remember my dad telling me, “who you marry will affect your ability to live for Christ.” As I’ve watched my friends and acquaintances get married I can now tell the prophetic truth of that statement.

My wife fits every Biblical description of a godly woman. She is talented, beautiful, industrious, hard-working, humble, and modest. She is incredibly smart. In fact, when we met in college she helped me bring my GPA up (unfortunately I helped her bring hers every-so-slightly down). She would never brag, so I get to do it for her! People don’t often realize the sacrifices she made for us to come to Virginia and me to become a vocational pastor. I often joke that she was my sugar-mama while I was in seminary in NC. That’s really not a joke! She had one of those high-paying, corporate jobs that gave her all the worldly accolades. She traded that in to move to VA for a lower (much, much lower) paying job with much less recognition. She traded in day-trips to NYC for a vibrant ministry with teenager girls. Business trips to the Waldorf-Astoria are now replaced with discipleship dates at Starbucks with a teenager. Corporate weekends in Veil have given way to Bible Studies in our house.

Through all of this God has confirmed to me that I made the right choice when I asked Whitney to marry me. She fears God and strives daily to serve him. My wife is by far the more gifted minister. She is more like Jesus because she is more of a servant.

The other day I was talking with another local pastor. We were talking about evaluating personal strengths and weaknesses. I have a lot of weaknesses! However, when he asked me to name my greatest strength, I answered without hesitation, “my wife.”

What has motivated me to write this post? First of all, I love my wife and think she is awesome. I think everyone needs to know how awesome she really is. In addition, she puts up with all sorts of foolishness from me. Finally, in an age of celebrity it is important for people to know the “hidden story.” Sometimes those without the attention are the ones who are most to be emulated.

Whitney, thank you for loving Jesus and thank you for loving me.

(P.S. — One of Whitney’s passions is helping people plan events. Check out her blog to learn more about her event planning!)

Vacation: Orlando

After the Weiner Dog extravaganza in Savannah, Whitney and I head down to Orlando. We spent the week shopping, sightseeing, seeing friends, relaxing, and having a good time. Our resort was in Kissimmee (think Vegas has an illegitimate lovechild with Myrtle Beach—lots of illuminated signs and tacky tourist shops).

The week started off great because we got to see one of Whitney’s dearest friends from childhood (Christina). And got even better when I got in touch with an friend from my Fuge days (we worked camp together in West Palm Beach). Turns out that Kari (mad props) is a cast member at Disney now. She got us into the park for two days with free parking and hooked us up with some tour guide action at Animal Kingdom. She was awesome!

Because of Kari’s generosity we were able to enjoy all the fun stuff at Disney. At Epcot we were able to eat our way around the world during the Food and Wine festival (think Chilean tacos, Bavarian pretzels, French crêpes, and much more).

Disney was a lot of fun. It was hilarious to watch all the angry dad’s yell at their exhausted children: “Do you know how much I paid for you to come here? You’re going to stop crying, get on this ride, and LIKE IT.” Also, Whitney is like a four year old around Minnie Mouse. She gets REALLY excited. The roller coasters were great, the entertainment was superb (we saw the Finding Nemo musical in Animal Kingdom and I loved the Monsters Inc. Laugh Floor in the Magic Kingdom), and the food was delicious. Disney just does things well. Everything was clean and efficient. Even with the large crowds the lines were managed well.



We mixed in a lot of shopping and swimming during the rest of the week. It was such a smart decision to have “days off” from Disney. It allowed us time to sleep in, work out, and just chill. We finished the week with Cirque du Soleil La Nouba. It was PHENOMENAL (the video does not do it justice). It was worth every penny. The acrobatics were jaw-dropping, the performances were very creative, the clowns were hilarious in a sophisticated sort of way, and the live music was top notch. I can’t say enough about how much I enjoyed the show. My mouth was open and my stomach was in knots the entire time.

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Dancing in the Minefields

I’ve been a fan of Andrew Peterson for a while now.  His newest release (Counting Stars) was released today.  My favorite song is the gospel-saturated tune “Dancing in the Minefields.”  It is a song about commitment, marriage, and Christ-like love.

As such, I want to dedicate this to my beautiful wife, Whitney.

It’s harder than we dreamed, but I believe that’s what the promise is for

And we bear the light of the Son of Man, so there’s nothing left to fear.  So I’ll walk with you in the shadowlands, until the shadows disappear.  ‘Cause He promised not to leave us, and His promises are true.  So in the face of all this chaos, maybe I can dance with you.